Why must there be a prettiest?

Who is the prettiest? Who has the nicest hair? Who is the smartest?

Why must there be a prettiest, why can’t I be happy with just being pretty? I relate to my beauty as constantly changing depending on my make-up, my hair, my outfit and most importantly what the other girls in the room looks like. Somehow I was made to believe that there can only be one truly pretty person, and if you are not number one then you’re not pretty – or at least it can feel that way. But I do not relate to other things like there is only one beautiful dress in the room or one beautiful necklace.

I am tired of seeing beauty as a competition with one winner. I hate how I feel when I am the loser- feeling of being inadequate, incompetent, unlovable. The trade off is the powerful confidence and carefree attitude I experience when I am the winner.

How do I stop losing myself just because another powerful / pretty / smart/ successful / popular girl walks in the room/ onto the television? How do I stop losing my confidence when I look in the mirror and see an imperfection? How can I always remember all the things that make me beautiful? So that on days when my makeup is not done or when I feel unappreciated for my work, I do not forget that I am worth loving, worth paying attention to, and worth investing in.

By Isabel Rasmussen- I wrote this while thinking about the creation story of the iPhone Application Beauty Mirror.  I want girls to start recognizing the unhealthy ideas we have around beauty and to begin to replace them with new thoughts, such as “I am beautiful and so are you.”  When I see another beautiful woman or begin to judge another woman I catch the negative thought and replace it with”I am beautiful and so are you.”

About isabelrasmussen

Three generations of women in my family raised me until first grade, amongst them I was taught how wonderful it was to be a girl. In my tween years I was confronted with many of the social challenges other girls face and my self confidence dwindled. I think it was going from being so proud of being a girl to struggling so much as a girl and reading of all the struggles that women faced that motivated me throughout my life. I received her undergraduate degree in Women’s Studies at UW and then worked in domestic violence and as a community organizer in San Francisco. At 26 I took the opportunity to live in Guatemala for a year and West Africa for a summer. I returned to the US and in 2008 obtained a Green MBA at Dominican University in San Rafael.
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