This piece is written by Kathy Light, the author of the book Reasons Why You Rock. The Beauty Message Challenge is about seeing what is beautiful and great about each one of us, or as Kathy says, the reasons why you rock. Kathy Light articulates perfectly why doing this 10 day challenge is so important and that is why we wanted to start with this piece. Over the next 10 days use whatever word is most powerful for you whether it be “I rock, I am beautiful, I am one hot diva”, or a word that one of our other contributing authors introduces.
Why should you be crystal clear about the reasons you rock? Some people may think that level of self-appreciation sounds egotistical or selfish. I’m guessing some of you are recalling a voice from your childhood that said, “Now, don’t get a big head.” But understanding why you rock isn’t about having a swollen ego; it’s about recognizing the full beauty of your gifts so you can present them to the world with grace and honesty and so they can be fully used by others.
It’s simple. We need to clarify and acknowledge the reasons why we rock so that we can give the best of what we’ve got to the world and not hold ourselves back from being and accomplishing everything we are capable of. This process isn’t egotistical or selfish; it’s among the most powerful gifts I can imagine.
We all know deep down that we have greatness in us; yet we often let self-doubt consume us. Self-doubt is a killer of dreams. It eats away at our very souls, continually convincing us that we aren’t good enough, smart enough, beautiful enough, talented enough, and a whole host of other “not enoughs.” Every day we are faced with endless opportunities to tell ourselves we aren’t good enough. What would happen if we replaced those self-doubts with all the reasons we are more than good enough, that we are extraordinary, that we totally rock?
The more you take stock in, absorb, and swim around in your own greatness, the less you will doubt yourself, the more you will let your own light shine and, as Marianne Williamson says, the more you will give other people permission to do the same. Can you imagine what would happen if we all let ourselves soar, unencumbered by fear and insecurity and self-doubt? We would create a world that totally rocks!
I love the connection to the other kind of rocks. In nature and in literature, rocks are associated with mountains, healing, fortresses, and the divine spirit. Rocks denote permanence, solidity, integrity, indestructibility, security, wisdom, harmony, eternity. When we are clear about the reasons why we rock, we are a rock, a pillar of strength not only for ourselves, but for others as well. We can’t give all we are to others if we aren’t first a rock for ourselves. If you feel solid about who you are and where you are headed, then you won’t harbor resentment or jealousy of others for accomplishing their dreams. You will have a deep well of self-love from which to draw your love of others.
Reasons Why You Rock is about loving yourself. Not about comparing yourself to others, but about loving all the great and wonderful things about you. It is also about recognizing that taking stock of your greatness shouldn’t happen only occasionally, but on a regular basis. We all experience peaks and valleys in our lives every year, every month, every week, and even every day. We all need help to lift us out of the valleys and sustain us on the peaks. Focus on the reasons why you rock often, take the lessons you learn about yourself, and share them with others.
You totally rock!
Kathy Light is Founder and President of KathyLight International, a company dedicated to inspiring leaders to realize their greatness and achieve their visions. We do this through insightful, uplifting and action-oriented coaching, training, speaking and consulting.